Trust and intimacy have to be earned.

Many men have met someone in a sexual situation, gone home together without having done much talking, and had good sex. If that's what you're looking for, go ahead! But if you're looking for intimacy, take a look at this article.

If you are hoping to meet someone who will be a companion, or friend, as well as a lover, you will need to base the relationship on a lot more than the fact that the two of you put each other's hormones into an uproar. Therefore it's necessary to spend a lot of time talking early on. Does he encourage you to talk about yourself, or is every word out of his mouth "me-me-me?" Do you feel comfortable opening up to him, and becoming increasingly vulnerable? This is not just an intuitive process, but happens because he responds with sensitivity and empathy to concerns you share with him. These concerns may be your awkwardness about dating, health fears, body image or any other personal information. At the same time, does he talk about personal issues in a way

that results in your beginning to care about him? Getting to know another person and feeling safe with him is how genuine intimacy begins to develop; intimacy is linked to trust. Trust takes time, and this doesn't happen overnight. Trust and intimacy have to be earned.